When I was a student at Cambridge I remember an anthropology professor holding up a picture of a bone with 28 incisions carved in it. “This is often considered to be man’s first attempt at a calendar” she explained. She paused as we dutifully wrote this down. ‘My question to you is this – what man needs to mark 28 days? I would suggest to you that this is woman’s first attempt at a calendar.’
Women constantly finds themselves apologizing for their non-conformity to patriarchal values: “I’m a lesbian…but I don’t hate men, ” “I’m a feminist, but I still like girly things,” “I’m anti-porn, but it doesn’t mean I can’t have fun.” Female feminists still bare the brunt of their conditioning, feeling the need to diminish how powerful they are when they reject certain aspects of the sexist culture. Whether it means not needing male approval or male comfort, whether it means not being feminine-presenting, reaching outside the boundaries of hearth, home and their “innate” maternal drive, or not having any interests in fulfilling sexualized fantasies of female subjugation, female feminists often find themselves trying to lessen the impact of their beliefs. This manifestation of conditioning, where women try to avoid coming across as intimidating or anti-patriarchal, consoles and reassures men that we still know our “place” and is a product of us still wanting to hold some appeal to them, even if it means downplaying our anger and objections towards the sexism we fight so passionately against.
These are the best (worst) GOP rape quotes I could find - but message me if you have more. Let’s hold these people accountable.
1. Todd Akin: “If it’s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways of shutting that whole thing down” - mid 2012 Senate Campaign
2. Claytie Williams: “If it’s inevitable, just relax and enjoy it” - mid 1990 Gubernatorial race in Texas
3. Chuck Winder: “I would hope that when a woman goes in to a physician with a rape issue, that physician will indeed ask her about perhaps her marriage, was this pregnancy caused by normal relations in a marriage or was it truly caused by a rape. I assume that’s part of the counseling that goes on.” - March 2012
4. Ken Buck: “A jury could very well conclude that this is a case of buyer’s remorse … It appears to me … you invited him over… the appearance is of consent.” - October 2010
5. Rick Santorum: “I think the right approach is to accept this horribly created — in the sense of rape — but nevertheless a gift in a very broken way, the gift of human life, and accept what God has given to you… rape victims should make the best of a bad situation.” - January, 2012
PEOPLE: WE SHOULD ALL BE FURIOUS. WE SHOULD ALL GET PISSED OFF AND BE VOCAL ABOUT IT. WE SHOULD ALL VOTE.
So, I was watching Love & Hip-Hop: Atlanta (I know, I know) earlier and this chick on the show, K. Michelle or whoever, pounced on this man she was on a date with. In typical reality show fashion, it panned away and the next time we saw her she was discussing her man issues with a friend and saying that she loses interest quickly.
The fake ass intellectuals and relationship experts on the cesspool that is Twitter all had to weigh in on the real reason she’s single… You guessed it, she’s a ho! Let’s look at the very little information that was given on K. Michelle that decided she’s a ho:
- She tongue-kissed a man on a first date.
- She straddled that man while kissing him.
- She says she loses interest quickly.
Based off of this information, the twitter scholars believed that she fucked him the first night and then he ignored her calls.
Okay, and? Even if that were true, does that make her a ho? What even is a ho?
I’m a ho too, then. Fuck it. I don’t play pussy games. If I feel like fucking and there’s available and desirable dick I’m probably going to fuck. If a dude views me negatively because we smashed on the first night then he really wasn’t the one for me. All that patriarchy and madonna-whore complex bullshit means there was no possible way we were ever going to work out - even as homies.
Anyway, My name is Jasmine. I’m 25. I like to fuck… A lot. Sometimes, I fuck on the first date. Other times, I fuck without a date - as in I exclusively meet up with a male for the purpose of fornication. I don’t have a boyfriend and I’m not all that interested in having one. You’d have to be spectacular; my self-esteem is too high to tolerate nonsense. I lose interest quick as shit because most men I meet aren’t all that interesting. At times, I keep men in rotation. Yes, men that I am fucking. I have been known to stop talking to a man I’ve been smanging just because he has feelings for me and his feelings are something I am not at all invested in. No, I am not acting out. No, I do not hate men. I’m just really okay with being by myself and super comfortable with my sexuality. Oh, yeah, and I like to fuck. You don’t like that? You will be okay. If all of this makes me a ho, cool shit. But like nobody could come between Brooke and her Calvin’s, nobody is coming in between me and my nut (no puns intended).
you are what is female
you shall be called Eve.
and what is masculine shall be called God.
And from your name Eve we shall take
the word Evil.
and from God’s, the word Good.
now you understand patriarchal morality.
-Judy Grahn, from Confrontations with the Devil in the Form of Love
I just sang the “ooo la la la” part of Fu-Gee-La after reading this. This is wonderful.
I am instinctively suspicious
of any man who claims to be
Too often this man thinks
that he has overcome
Too often this man forgets
when he belittles
and the perspectives
of the people most negatively affected-
He is being dismissive but also
patriarchal and sexist.
So, Mr. Feminist,
while I appreciate you
taking a stand against
the systematic oppression
and devaluing of women
Recognize, we are not one.
Recognize that your male privilege still exists.
Denouncing it doesn’t make it disappear.
You may stand up for me
but you cannot stand in for me.